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The Hitches of Pseudo Relationships

One cold, Saturday night, a friend messaged me on Facebook asking for different advises concerning Mutual Understanding (MU) kind of relationships. This friend of mine told me that she is presently in a MU phase with somebody. She inquired me to give some downside of MU because she just freshly agreed on this kind of set-up. Well, I told her to check out my Tumblr blog for answers within a week and this is it.

Well, let me give a brief rationalization of Mutual understanding.

Mutual understanding, or simply MU is a kind of relationship where in the two people involved are more than friends, but not lovers. There is no commitment at all. In this stage, you can act like lovers (or sometimes like a married couple). May landian factor. Pero in the end, there are no vows, commitments and shit. In tagalog, kayo pero hindi kayo.

I know that everybody is aware in this kind of set-up that’s why I just typed a short explanation. Caveman nalang siguro ang hindi nakakaalam ng salitang MU. So going back, there are many downsides and short comings ng ganitong relationship.

You can’t ask your partner to commit with you. Since you are in a MU stage, you cannot insist any category of commitment from your partner. Hello, wala kang karapatang magpasundo ng disoras ng gabi o disoras ng umaga?! Wala ka ring ‘K’ para magpabili sa kanya ng lunch at ng school materials. Ano lang ba kayo? “MU.” Ambiguities will constantly come up to your damn mind. You are hesitant about your role in his life, or his role in your life. Hindi ka pwedeng mag-expect ng kahit ano from him. Hindi ka rin pwede mag-expect na lagi siyang nandyan sa tabi mo, to placate you, or to be there for you. And worse, if you feel green-eyed about this girl he is chatting and texting all night long, itatago mo nalang. ANO KA BA NIYA PARA MAGSELOS? #ohdiba

Ang mainlove, talo. Lugi ka kapag nakaramdam ka ng spark sa pagitan ninyong dalawa. Alam mo kung bakit? Kasi hindi ka naman sure kung nararamdaman din niya yung nag-aalab na spark na nararamdaman ng puso, isip, kaluluwa at ng katawang-lupa mo. You will never distinguish if the feeling is communal. Ang pangit tignan na nag-aassume ka lang na mahal ka rin nya, pero magugulat ka nalang at (hashtag) #NGANGA kapag nalaman mong hanggang assume ka nalang at wala siyang nararamdaman para sa iyo. Even if your inner goddess notifies you to divulge your exact feelings for him, you can’t for the reason that you are unconvinced if he feels the identical way. Ayaw mong mapahiya in the end, di ba? Sino ba ang may gusto non?

Another pessimistic portion of mutual understanding type of relationship is that when you had a fight or dissimilarity, the affiliation impedes there. Wala ng resolusyong mangyayari. Unlike in serious and legitimate relationships, you can fix it. You can have a discussion about it after the clash. Sa MU stages kasi, if the gentleman turned really cold like f****ing Olaf, he can abscond you in a snap. Maaari ka nyang iwanan sa ere. Wala kayong magiging official closure. Walang break-up. Wala naman kasing ‘kayo.’ Merong ‘ikaw’. Merong ‘siya’. Pero WALANG KAYO, tandaan mo!

Buti sana kung pseudo pain din ang mararamdaman mo sa pseudo relationships di ba? Kaso, hindi eh. Darating ang time na iiyak-iyakan mo siya tuwing gabi. Darating ang time na siya na ang nagiging sanhi ng pagkabagsak mo sa exams kasi dati rati, siya ang inspirasyon mo. Darating ang time na you will end up cutting yourself or hurting yourself. Magpapaka-masochist ka. Di lang pala masochist, hypocrite pa. Darating din yung time na one day, umaasa ka na lalapit nalang siya ulit sa’yo and ask for another set-up. Damn!

Ang hirap talaga nang ma-engage sa set-up na ganito, right? Wala ka namang ibang hiniling kung hindi lumigaya sa piling ng iba, para magpakasaya. Pero in the closing stages, mapapalitan yung saya na yun ng kalungkutan at kasawian.

But wait, there’s more. Maaari namang maiwasan yung kinakatakutang ‘kalungkutan’ at ‘kasawian’ na iyan eh. Just know the boundary. Just know your place. Just know the basic meaning of this kind of fling. Di ba, kaligayahan lang naman ang gusto mo? Eh di, magpakalunod ka sa kasiyahan. Wag mong iisipin ang future. Wag mong iisipin ang kahahantungan nyo. Enjoy the roller coaster ride and never think of the upshots.

Kung alam mo naman sa sarili mo na masasaktan ka sa huli, STOP. You have the option to stop the fling. You can just wait for thing real thing to approach. Di ba?

 

Mutual understanding, or simply MU is a kind of relationship where in the two people involved are more than friends, but not lovers. There is no commitment at all. In this stage, you can act like lovers (or sometimes like a married couple). May landian factor. Pero in the end, there are no vows, commitments and shit. In tagalog, kayo pero hindi kayo.

Well, the bottom-line of everything is to do the things that make you blissful, just jog your memory the potential consequences. You have a choice darling because in MU relationships, kaunti lang ang bilang ng kumekendeng up to the next level.

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